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To write about this was from the days I was in hospital , when I saw a couple helping each other.Very old couple who were sick, the old lady was on wheel chair and the uncle was pushing the wheel chair. I was there with my granny , who had come to take care of me for some tests.

Old ladies blood test was over and that Uncle her husband was taking for collecting urinary sample, he was pushing it himself .Grandma offered help saying she will take the lady in, but Uncle said its alright.

There were no kids with them , talking to them came to know , they have 5 kids and all of them settled abroad and two of them in Delhi.Out of 5 none of them is ready to keep the parents near them. My mind went floating off with thoughts , after a certain point of time in life , its no one else will be there with you, ur husband or wife tats it .no kids , no brothers and sisters no relatives..

But in many of our lives we wouldnt respect that partner and we go off behind somebody else...with these thoughts remembered a song which I had heard long back , where the guy asks his girl a few questions.......

In most of the love relationships , we see now guys want a time pass when their first love is away somewhere..for this short duration time pass relationships guys give a name as love.. its not Guys even girls also..

In a way girls are smarter when they know guy is falling for them they let them encourage them , I dont blame all girls few of them cant say NO to the guy who is in love with them , and they suffer inside..but few girls encourage guys to fall though already in relationships and finally give a reason as my parents dint agree , In these kind of relationships the second guy would be ready to anything to the girl on a competition , he would be loyal , he wouldnt look at any other girl to impress the girl he loves...she would have been his life...his heart beat, but the girls use up this sentiment and get their work done...the guy would have so much fooled that he would have spent his entire earnings in amusing the girl and girl wouldnt have much left to withdraw from him...she would be very sweet with few tears and saying parents are totally against , I just wanna live my lifetime with you but parents are barriers...

In relationships where girls think from heart always get hurt , first guy would be behind and the second guy would be black mailing saying I cant live without pls dont leave me stuff. The girl continues even after her marriage also he would use her until his marriage as his support and finally blame her that she is not letting him live his life..

Is relationships become such cheap that we seek our comfort and not others happiness...I know lots of people seek relationship as WIFE or HUSBAND is necessary for me when I need something and fulfill my needs....relationships is not only finance, sex , family increment but its an unbreakable bond which has to live for years together.

Some of the marriage break due to ego problems, nobody wants to compromise.. Marriage is not carrying ego or to show I am great..They are just the wheels of the chariot without one another "Chariot of marriage " is not carried further.Why cant we adjust with our partner, its not only for girls even for guys both should leave their ego and go further...some marriages break just cos husband was snoring or smelling bad....

In some cases people get married to the person who is working abroad so that they get a VISA easily to land abroad..its kind of deal..is relationships become so cheap...

Real Meaning of marriage is not understood during early years of marriage cos we dont live life for us , we live life for our future and our children, We start living life after 30 years of marriage where children are also settling up and then we look for our partner who was with us all this while.A person who had never respected his wife thru out his life starts caring for her at this age, A middle aged lady who looks for her children support during her 40's realises ,children need their friends rather than parents anymore...... some unlucky people would have lost their spouses before even living this life..In kannada there is a saying Nee nanage Naa ninage..this is when life starts ...so why live life after so many years ..live each moment of ur life for ur spouse ..respect ur spouse dont dominate,
..keep aside ur egos say sorry be it whosoever mistake
..finance and sex is not the important thing in life
..forgive each other;s mistake each others lies
..if u feel u cant give happiness to the other try being the way they like , and the second one please accept ur loved one as they are or atleast notice the effort they are making.by having a breakup or divorce u wont get peace but u will just add ur numbers to the list of ur spouses.
If you feel in ur love life , u cant give happiness , there is nothing as good relationship after a break up, so break it up completely so that the other one wouldnt come back to u to say sorry and hurting each other and having an unhealthy relationship....just break it completely its good u become villany rather than staying good and spoiling everyones life around u....

I dont what sense it makes to all but my understanding abt relationship is crystal clear....